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Monday, April 4, 2011

Support from my Family

I think I mentioned last week that after J and I sent our the email about our situation to my parents, my mom sent me a text message saying that should would give me a call on Sunday.  So, yesterday she called and it was fine.  Actually, better than fine.  She just asked if I was ready or wanted to talk about it and I said it kind of depends what you want to know.  She said they just wanted to make sure I was okay and to know that I wasn't alone.  I was really general with her for now.  Basically just that we know that there is a problem, but we are sure what's causing it so we're starting some treatments.  She also asked if I was okay with the treatments because she knows that I'm not good with a lot of that stuff (needles, shots, medical stuff), but I assured her that for now I thought it would be fine.  Basically at the end of the conversation I felt really good - I know that I can call and tell her more details whenever I want, but for now I really want to just see how this first IUI works out before I tell her a bunch more details. 

She also asked if we had heard from J's parents, which we have not.  She knows that I have a very strained relationship with them.  They say things all the time that are upsetting to me.  I know they don't mean to, it's just the way they say things, but I've been very nervous about how them knowing about our IF would play out.  So far, they haven't responded, so who knows?  I asked J if he's going to follow up with them if he never hears back, but so far I don't think he knows what he wants to do. 

Today is also CD 9.  My HSG is tomorrow and I'm crossing my fingers that it's simple, the results are good, and that I can go back to my office in the afternoon.  I hope I'm not asking for too much :) 

5 comments:

  1. Thinking of you and holding you dear in my heart. I also have a very, very strained relationship my husband's family. I've tried very hard to make the relationships positive and loving, but often feel like I have a lot working against me that I can't control. They don't know anything about our six year (as of next month) struggle with infertility. I hear you completely, and I applaud you for the strength you have. Wishing you the very best...

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  2. I am so glad your mom was so great about it!
    Good luck tomorrow, make sure you take two panikillers about 20-30 before and unless you have blockages or scarring, you should be fine!!!!
    Also, this may be gross, but bring your own pad or pantyliner. I didn't and had to wear the hospital one that is the size of a diaper!

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  3. I'm glad the talks went well! I hope you hear from his family. My DH's family wasn't as supportive as mine was, but they are coming around better now. It can be awkward and frustrating. Hugs.
    GOOD LUCK with your HSG!!

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  4. Im glad things went well with your mom. My dh's family knows but doesnt ever really mention it. My parents tried to be supportive but just arent very comfortable with treatments. It was very hard at times.

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  5. Sounds like a great conversation with your mom. They always know how to make things better :) I hope you hear from your parents-in-law soon, just so you're not worrying about what they're thinking or what you'll say...

    Good luck today!

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